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10 rules its okay to BreakSo you don’t want to play by the rule? So what, who says you have to?
Rule one:
You can't ask for money as a gift
This is one rule that you can throw out the window straight away. It was once considered bad manners to devise and distribute a gift list but things have moved on a lot. Most of your guests will be glad not to have to go to the trouble of going to the shops and picking out a gift. If you feel a little strange coming straight out and asking the cash put the word out among your parents and the bridal party that you are saving for items for your home and would appreciate any help you get.
Rule two:
You must not see the groom before the ceremony
This ancient tradition is one that more and more couples are choosing to disregard for a number of reasons. The most common is that a lot more couples are living together and the practicalities of preparing for and arriving at the wedding without seeing each other is becoming increasingly difficult. In the case of civil ceremonies many couples arrive together to the service. So why not ditch the superstitions and do what you want?
Rule three:
You have to have sex on your wedding night
Seriously, after the stress, the early start, all that food and drink, not to mention the hectic pace of the day, who's going to be in the mood? Don't feel pressurised into consummating your marriage on the night of your wedding. Instead, treat yourself to some sexy lingerie for your honeymoon.
 Rule four:
You have to wear white
It is believed that Mary Queen of Scots was one of the first brides to choose a white dress for her wedding day but it was not until Queen Victoria's marriage that the practice became common place. Until then, brides wore all colours of gowns, except black, which was associated with mourning, and red, which was connected with ladies of the night. Today you can find wedding dresses in some fabulous hues from honeys and caramels through to pastel pinks and blues.
Rule five:
You have to invite all of your relations
You don't have to invite anyone who you don't wish to invite. Couples often feel pressurised into sending invitations to distant relatives who in some cases they've never even met. Prioritise your list. If you are struggling with your numbers, apply the one-year rule. If you haven't seen them in the last 12 months then take them off the list.
Rule six:
Only the guys get to make speeches
Shake off convention and prepare your own speech or if you don't feel up to it then nominate your maid of honour to do it. Your guests will be delighted to hear a female voice among all those men twittering on!
Rule seven:
Big boys don't cry
Don't be too shocked if your man gets a little teary come the ceremony. Even the most seemingly unemotional guys can get a little choked up when they see the girl they loved dressed up in all her finery ready to say ‘I do'.
Rule eight:
You'll remember every last detail for years come
Chances are that you will be so emotionally pent up come the day that most of it will pass by in a blur. Few brides can honestly say that they have every single joyous moment imprinted on their memory. Don't worry if you feel the day goes by like a dream - concentrate on enjoying the moment.
Rule nine:
You really should change your surname
It's perfectly normal to feel hesitant about changing your surname to that of your new hubby. Some girls feel its sacrificing too much of their individuality, others cite career reasons as the primary reason why they don' t feel comfortable making the adjustment. Talk to your partner and get their take on things. Perhaps you can reach a compromise.
Rule ten:
Your parents have to pay
As the cost of putting on a wedding continues to rise it's become normal for the groom's parents or even the couple themselves to contribute. Work out your budget as quickly as possible - agreeing what things are most important to you, for example, the wedding dress, the photography or the reception venue - ask for recommendations from friends and price a number of options to make sure you are getting the best deal.
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