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The Final Countdown WJ guide to His and Her duties…

Although you and your fiancé are likely to be working closely together on your wedding plans, there are some jobs that traditionally are handled by the bride, and some which are usually the groom's domain.

BRIDE
As the bride, your biggest concern is likely to be finding yourself a stunning dress, sourcing the perfect accessories and finding the right outfit for your bridesmaids but don't let these jobs be your sole focus. You have lots of work to do over the coming months.

* Finding your perfect dress and accessories
* Helping your mother find her outfit
* Organising the bridesmaids dresses
* Presents for the bridesmaids
* Present for the groom
* Presents for the mothers
* Co-ordinating the wedding party
* Deciding what type of service/reception to have
* Choose and order the wedding stationary
* Pick out bouquet and arrangements
* Organise music for the wedding ceremony and
  reception

GOOD LUCK OMENS
· Everyone knows the rhyme something old, something new, something borrowed
  and something blue. If followed this ancient wedding day recipe is believed to be
  the basic ingredients for a lucky marriage.
· Stepping out of your house on your right foot
· Seeing a black cat or a chimney sweep on the morning of your wedding day
· Carrying a sixpence in your shoe
· Finding a spider's web in your dress
· Wearing a wedding garter

GROOM
There are some duties that have traditionally fallen under the groom's remit of responsibility. Obviously its up to you and your bride to decide just how stringently you wish to stick to the following list but it will give you an idea of the things that you may have to do.

Traditionally the groom has looked after things like the wedding cars and honeymoon. This may seem old fashioned but can be incredibly romantic. Why not speak to your fiancée about their dream car or ideal holiday vacation and go from there. Every girl loves an element of surprise!

* Choosing your best man and ushers
* Choosing a gift for the best man
* Present for the bride
* Picking out the wedding rings
* Booking the Honeymoon
* Writing a speech for the reception
* Paying the church fees
* Arrange transport for the wedding party
* Organise buttonholes for you & your groomsmen
* Pay for flowers
* Organising drinks for the toast

GOOD LUCK OMENS
· Giving the minister/priest an odd sum of money
  for their fee
· Wearing a flower in your buttonhole which features in the brides bouquet
· It is believed to be lucky if the groom should give a coin to the first person he
  sees on his way to the church
· Carrying your new bride over the threshold

THINGS TO DO TOGETHER
Throughout your wedding you and your partner will have to keep the lines of communication open. Talk to each other about how you see your perfect day. This is meant to be the biggest day of your lives. Make sure it turns out the way you want it to by deciding together how you want to do the big things. Plan your date, the style of your wedding and the location of your service and reception together. Get these major decisions out of the way first and then start thinking about the finer details.

· Announce engagement
· Pick a date and time for the wedding
· Decide on the guest list
· Organise some time for yourselves
· Pick songs to accompany your DVD
· Choose a song for your first dance
· Decide on the menu