How to Write the Perfect Best Man’s Speech & Ace It
So you’ve been asked to be the best man at your best pal’s wedding, and it’s a pretty good feeling! But beyond all the fun elements of the job including organising stag parties, handing over the wedding rings and getting the party started on the dance floor, there is one final duty: the best man’s speech…
After it was announced on Thursday, by Kensington Palace that Prince William was to serve the title as Best Man at Prince Harry & Meghan Markle’s Wedding on May 19th, we’ve been wondering what he could possibly say! As before his brother’s wedding in 2011, Prince Harry said his best man’s speech would:
“Dig (Prince William) in the ribs a few times and embarrass him” and “make him lose some hair”!
However, in a statement, Kensington Palace said: “The Duke of Cambridge is honoured to have been asked, and is very much looking forward to supporting his brother.” – but we’re sure they’ll be some jokes in there! With this in mind, we thought we’d give Prince William a helping hand, by gathering all of our top tips for delivering the perfect Best Man’s Speech…
Prince Harry has asked his brother The Duke of Cambridge to be his Best Man at his wedding to Ms. Meghan Markle. pic.twitter.com/7TvZ2VlEk2
— Kensington Palace (@KensingtonRoyal) April 26, 2018
Whilst some of you possibly can’t wait to get stuck into revealing all the antics you and your mate have gotten up to over the years, not everyone loves public speaking, and you’re not alone! Traditionally, the best man speech is the most eagerly awaited of all the wedding speeches, but relax – follow our pointers for a brilliant speech that will bring tears, laughter and applause from the whole room…
Plan & structure
Start writing your best man speech about two months before the wedding. As the date nears, there are lots of events, such as suit fittings, which could distract you from your writing. Start by creating a structure of a beginning, middle and end and a list of the key things to consider. Choose the top 10 things you want to say and include a mix of funny anecdotes and stories such as: when the groom met the bride, comments on the day so far, tales from when you went to school together and a round-up of who to thank before a toast.
Keep it short
The good news is, you don’t have to write a film script here! A best man’s speech should just be around five minutes, but no longer than ten to keep the audience’s attention. A light-hearted and snappy speech from the heart with a few witty comments will always go down a treat.
Write it down
Memorising is fine if you have a great memory, but you’ll feel much more confident if you have your speech written down. Use small note cards with your key points in your speech listed in bullet points so it’s easy to pick up where you left off if your nerves get the better of you and you veer off track!
First impressions really are everything, so try kicking off with a killer opening line to grab everyone’s attention and set the mood. Try a great one-liner, a witty comment about the groom or even express your gratitude at being given this role. Don’t forget to introduce yourself to the crowd and how you know the groom, as whilst most people will know who you are, a handful of people may not!
Of course, the best man’s speech doesn’t have to be a rehearsed, set dialogue. But practicing keeps your timing on track, your eye contact on point and your nerves at bay. Video yourself on your phone, practicing your speech aloud and send it to a close friend for some honest feedback or to get a feel for how it’s going.
Of course you’ll want to make a few jokes at the expense of the groom (what’s a speech without a bit of banter!) but you don’t want your speech jokes to be remembered for all the wrong reasons. We suggest to keep it clean and instead of telling any horror stories about ex’s or wild behaviour pre-relationship, tell light-hearted stories of the grooms character and the time you’ve shared together.
Include the bride
You can never go wrong with a sincere compliment about how beautiful the bride looks! Work in a story about how the groom met the bride, or how happy she makes your best friend and it’s sure to be a crowd pleaser.
See links for more information on Speech Format’s for the Best Man, Best Man Speech Examples and Speech Tips for the Father of the Bride.